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Therapy Not Working? How to Tell If It's the Treatment or the Diagnosis
Good therapy sometimes stops working, and the reason is not always the therapist or the patient. Our Escondido psychologists explain how an unrecognized diagnosis quietly limits treatment, what a comprehensive evaluation actually measures, and how to tell stalling from ordinary slow progress.
If your therapy has stalled, the cause is usually one of two things, a treatment that is not active or a diagnosis that is incomplete, and telling them apart decides what to do next.
An illustrative case, not a real patient
She has been in therapy for eighteen months. Her therapist is good, genuinely good, and uses evidence-based methods. She does the homework. She has learned to catch a catastrophic thought and test it against what actually happens. And she is roughly where she started.
When treatment stalls like that, most people reach one of two conclusions. Either the therapist is not very good, or something is wrong with them personally. There is a third possibility that almost nobody considers, and in our experience it is the most common one. It is also the one our psychologists in Escondido are asked to sort out most often.
The therapy may be fine. The target may be wrong.
Dr. Joanna Kennedy, PsyD, of Pinnacle Counseling and Testing Center in Escondido, California, sees this pattern regularly in people referred for evaluation after therapy has plateaued. What looks like treatment failure often turns out to be a diagnostic problem, and not always a flatly incorrect diagnosis. More often it's what she calls diagnostic overshadowing: one condition is prominent enough to absorb all the clinical attention while another, quietly shaping everything, goes unrecognized.
If someone isn't meeting their goals in therapy or showing the expected progress despite being in what appears to be the appropriate therapy, it's a sign the treatment is missing something or not focusing on the right thing.
Dr. Joanna Kennedy, PsyD, Pinnacle Counseling and Testing CenterSomebody can be receiving competent, well-delivered, evidence-based therapy and still stall, because the treatment is pointed at part of the picture rather than the whole of it. The missing piece varies. Sometimes it's ADHD sitting underneath a diagnosis of anxiety, so the trouble reads as worry when a good deal of it is executive functioning. Sometimes what was treated as generalized anxiety is closer to OCD, which calls for a different technique. Sometimes a learning disorder never came up. And sometimes the person is autistic and nobody has said so.
That last one deserves care, because popular writing tends to flatten it into something it is not. Stalled therapy does not mean a person is autistic. Autism is one item on a list, and for most people who plateau it will not be the answer. When it is, though, it has usually been the answer for years, and what changes afterward is specific.
One thing I've seen come up with my autistic patients often is that their challenges with flexible thinking need to be addressed more directly in order to benefit best from typical treatments for anxiety.
Dr. Joanna Kennedy, PsyDSame therapist, same modality, different entry point, and treatment that had been going nowhere starts moving.
How diagnoses get layered
People who arrive for a first evaluation as adults are rarely arriving fresh. Among 336 adults assessed for the first time for ADHD, autism, or both, most already carried a history of other psychiatric diagnoses. Of those diagnosed with ADHD, 72.8 percent had at least one lifetime co-occurring disorder, and depression was the most common one across every group in the study.
That is what an incomplete picture looks like from the inside. Not a blank chart, but a stack of partly right answers, each treated in good faith, none of them quite accounting for the whole thing.
The delay can run long. In a study of 161 adults who received a first autism diagnosis later in life, the first mental health evaluation had happened at a median age of 13 and the diagnosis at a median age of 23. Two thirds of that group spent the years between carrying other diagnoses and being treated for them.
Eleven years is not a delayed appointment. It is more than a decade of treatment aimed at something adjacent to the problem, and more than a decade of somebody quietly deciding that treatment does not work for them.
First, rule out the ordinary explanation
Before concluding the diagnosis is wrong, check whether the treatment is actually treatment. Sometimes therapy stalls for a much simpler reason. Dr. Clarissa Gosney, PsyD, describes a pattern she sees in people arriving from previous providers: months or years of checking in, talking through the week, and never really going anywhere. Supportive therapy is legitimate when that is the agreed goal. It becomes a problem when someone came in wanting change and the treatment quietly stopped pursuing it.
When a client comes in for change but has fallen into the mode of weekly check-ins, a good therapist will challenge this and often identify it as an avoidance strategy.
Dr. Clarissa Gosney, PsyD, Licensed PsychologistThe most reliable marker is homework. Dallin Hendry, MEd, a doctoral intern from Utah State University, describes two circles: the therapy circle and the real life circle. You can bring real life into therapy through exposure work, or carry therapy out into real life through homework.
There is only so much you can bring from real life into the therapy circle. Therapy works best when you take it outside of the walls of the therapy room and actively practice those strategies in those specific situations you need them for.
Dallin Hendry, MEdCheck this first
If you cannot remember the last time your therapist asked you to practice something specific between sessions, the sticking point is probably the treatment rather than the diagnosis. Raise it before pursuing an evaluation.
What early progress looks like
Progress in the first weeks rarely announces itself. Dr. Carissa Douglas, PsyD, does not expect a client to declare their anxiety gone at week six. In the first month or two she watches for four quieter things: recognizing patterns they could not see before, using a coping skill outside the office during an actually difficult moment, re-engaging with something they had been avoiding, and tolerating hard feelings somewhat better than before. All of those count as movement, and their absence over several months is the signal worth acting on.
When the diagnosis is genuinely the question
If the treatment is active and you are engaged in it and nothing is moving, the picture itself is worth examining.
Clinical perspective
Dr. Carissa Douglas, PsyD, holds that overlapping presentations require testing to separate, because the right treatment depends on which diagnosis is actually driving things. Her example is precise: CBT is the evidence-based treatment for anxiety, while OCD calls for CBT combined with exposure and response prevention. Those are different treatments, and getting a person the first when they need the second produces exactly the stalled progress described above.
When ADHD and anxiety appear together, she routinely recommends testing before starting therapy, so treatment begins from an accurate starting point rather than arriving at one eighteen months later.
Dr. Clarissa Gosney puts the stakes plainly. When someone is treated for a diagnosis they do not have, they can end up managing symptoms that are not present while their real symptoms go untreated. She points to a specific pairing she has seen misread repeatedly: children with selective mutism, an anxiety disorder, diagnosed instead as being on the autism spectrum.
What an evaluation actually changes
A comprehensive evaluation is not a longer intake interview. It measures cognitive functioning, memory, and both auditory and visual attention, and it treats behavioral observation across several hours as data in its own right, comparing how someone performs at the start of a session against the comfortable middle and the tired end.
A useful report does not stop at scores. It explains what the findings mean in daily life and what to do differently, which for a school-aged child means classroom accommodations and specific guidance for parents, and for a teen or adult means practical direction about work, study, and the situations that reliably go badly. It should be a document you understand and are willing to hand to a school or another clinician.
An accurate diagnosis also rarely means starting over. More often it changes the entry point rather than the whole approach. The skills already built tend to carry forward.
The part that matters most
There is a cost to carrying the wrong picture that has nothing to do with treatment efficiency.
If there's a misdiagnosis, there's a risk of thinking that there's something uniquely wrong with them that's causing the therapy not to work. Really it's a different diagnosis that needs a different treatment, or a different understanding brought to the treatment.
Dr. Joanna Kennedy, PsyDPeople who have worked hard in therapy and not improved rarely conclude that the diagnosis was incomplete. They conclude something is wrong with them that treatment cannot reach. That belief is corrosive, and it is often simply false.
Dr. Clarissa Gosney says much the same about changing providers. Deciding a course of therapy has run out of road is not a verdict on the therapist or on the work.
This doesn't mean that your therapist is awful, and it doesn't mean you should discredit any of the things you learned in therapy up to this point. Perhaps this therapist served you for a time.
Dr. Clarissa Gosney, PsyDKey takeaway
Stalled therapy is information, not a verdict. It usually means one of two things: the treatment is not active, or the picture is incomplete. Both are fixable, and neither is a statement about you.
Common questions
Look for movement outside the session rather than relief inside it. In the first month or two, that means noticing patterns you could not see before, using a coping skill during a genuinely hard moment, or re-engaging with something you had been avoiding. If several months have passed with none of that, and you are doing the between-session work, it is reasonable to ask what is being missed.
When one prominent diagnosis absorbs the clinical attention while another goes unrecognized. Anxiety is the usual headline condition, with unrecognized ADHD, OCD, a learning disorder, or autism underneath shaping how someone responds to treatment. The therapy is not wrong so much as incomplete, which is why it underperforms rather than plainly failing.
It depends on the presentation. When symptoms overlap, particularly ADHD alongside anxiety, our clinicians routinely recommend testing first, so treatment starts from an accurate diagnosis. Where the picture is clear, starting therapy and testing later if progress stalls is perfectly reasonable.
Yes. Reliable early developmental history is harder to obtain in adulthood, which makes the evaluation more difficult but not impossible. In one study of adults receiving a first autism diagnosis, the median gap between the first mental health evaluation and that diagnosis was eleven years, so arriving at the question later in life is common rather than unusual.
Rarely. More often it changes the entry point rather than the modality. Someone whose anxiety treatment was underperforming may need flexible thinking addressed more directly first, after which the same approaches begin working. The skills you already built usually carry forward.
If therapy has stalled, it is worth finding out why
Pinnacle Counseling and Testing Center provides comprehensive psychological and developmental testing, autism evaluation, ADHD testing, and counseling for children and adults in Escondido and throughout North County San Diego. Where medication becomes part of the conversation, we coordinate with your prescriber or refer you to one. Scholarship and payment plan options are available.
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